Yo!

This is not the 'yo-yo' of the English, British types 'Funky dude yo-yo.' It is the Tamil, 'Poya yo' types of 'Yo.'
And why I am saying this 'yo' is because I am slightly irritated. So, the yo. Yo, poya yo.

You know huh, in office also there is something called the honeymoon phase. In that phase, boss is smiling all the time, boss is praising your work, colleagues are laughing and giggling like anything, other people are always happy and you are feeling like, wow, this is only heaven I think.

But, it seems this honeymoon also is short time only. After that phase, boss is grumpy and sending stinkers via emails, boss is calling your work is crap like things, colleagues are running race with you, other people are talking bad things  about your back, sorry, behind your back.

This is only called true working phase. In your mind you will think, ayyooo why I came here to work. It is torture.

But now only you should think and say, 'all this will pass da.'

It won't pass. You will only pass. But good to say such things. We have to be like a buffalo in the work place. Anybody scolds means we have to stand quietly like chomping grass and walk away and do work. Anybody saying you are lazy and useless means, we should walk like we did not hear anything. Really like a buffalo we must become. Then one day, we will be doing our work without anybody disturbing us, because they are thinking, anyway this buffalo nothing will get in the skin, so why to shout.

Orreeyy jolly only that time. Soon, when boss is shouting means, we will smile like anything. From our buffalo eyes, all will look like buffalo to us.

So, all of you who are thinking work is bad and such type of things, please you first become buffalo in the mind. Then all is well only!

maaaaaaah!

Say it and move on!

Yesterday I was watching an episode of Big Bang Theory, the one where Amy ruins Raiders of the Lost Ark for Sheldon. Sheldon unable to come to terms with the fact that Amy ruined what was one of his favorite movies come up with sinister plans to ruin something for her. He decides to ruin one of her favorite childhood movies. However, Amy stops him and simply tells him that since they are in a relationship, revenge is not an option. Sheldon should have told Amy how hurt he was and they could have talked it over.

That's a nice lesson to take away and apply in our relationships. Not only the relationships with our BF/GFs, spouse but even the ones with our friends, colleagues, siblings and most importantly, parents. Every relationship thrives on the participants' involvement in the relationship. I know we generally associate the term relationship to love, but hey, no harm in loving everyone around you. Let's not take the term literally here, because the lesson we learn will only help us become a better individual.

Your relationship with a friend need not take an ugly turn just because she did not call you on your b'day or because she went away with somebody else for a movie. Your relationship with your colleagues need not become tense just because they are doing well at work or because they are getting along better with your boss. If you can't openly express your problems, don't seek revenge silently. Instead make an effort, no matter how difficult it is, to talk to the person. If the person doesn't understand then it is not your problem. It is your problem only if you bottle up your hurt. Say it and move on, without worrying about the outcome. Because let's agree, worry about these things will take us nowhere.

I am pretty bad at relationships myself. I am being very candid about it because everybody who knows me, knows that. And when I say relationships, I mean even friendships. I get hurt very easily. And I seldom talk about it. If I get hurt, I just move away and isolate myself. But revenge? No. I don't seek revenge. What I do end up doing is, annoy the person by becoming extremely silent and closed!

I tell you, it's not done. (I told myself that) So, the point is, once you are hurt by your friend or lover or colleague, for some of us, things may change forever. We may not be the same friends anymore, we may stop sharing secrets, we may start doubting a little, we may become indifferent and so on. I know I cannot change overnight, and trust me, you CAN'T! So I decided to do this one thing - tell the person I was hurt. And then move on.

The sense of peace you get when you tell someone they hurt you and you didn't like cannot be expressed. Let's try it in our lives and see how life turns out for us!

:)